Is it Okay to Cut Off Toxic Family Members?
Chances are if you are reading this then the answer is yes. The good news is you are not alone as millions of people like us struggle with guilt, that comes with cutting off toxic family members. Many like myself have had to cut off most if not all family members in extreme cases.
In my situation, cutting off my toxic family was my only path to healing a childhood which was full of sexual, physical and emotional abuse in addition to being exposed to substance abuse and domestic violence constantly..
I knew from the age of 7, if I survived my childhood, the only way I would be safe was to get away from my toxic parents. Thankfully I was able to do that around the age of 17 and have since been on a healing journey. Admittedly it was not easy to cut off my parents, grandparents and sibling but it definitely was for my highest good as they choose to believe, enable and cover up the abuse.
If you find yourself in this situation then know you are not alone. There are people all around you who have done the same thing in order to preserve their well being and sometimes sanity.
Should you be in that situation ask yourself this, If I was not related to _____ would I have anything to do with them? I am betting your gut response was an emphatic “hell no”. If so then there is your answer.
The truth is you incarnated here so that you could love, heal and evolve into your best self. Which sometimes mean you have to release or let go of people who do not have your highest good in mind. You will know if they have your highest good in mind by their thoughts, actions and words.
By cutting off toxic family members you create a space where you can heal and eventually attract people, and situations that have your highest good in mind.
Be advised society, well intending family members and friends may see this harsh or advise against this, but only you know what is right for you. Plus you have keep in mind most people give advice based on their experience in their reality. Which means if they have a positive family environment than that would seem harsh from their sheltered vantage point.
After letting the opinions of others ago, the only thing left is releasing any personal guilt you may feel. Understand feeling guilty is a normal reaction and yet so is the desire to heal and have good mental health.
As someone who has taken these steps I can say from experience that cutting off my toxic family members was one of the best things I have did for myself in the 42 years I have been alive. It feels great to have peace of mind, solid boundaries and feeling safe in a world where I never imagined that possible.
If I can achieve this level of healing and peace so can you. I would love to hear about your experience with cutting off toxic family members and how it has impacted your life in the comments below.